Has anyone told you that you need anger management? Did you get angry when you heard that? Chances are if you get angry at the thought of needing anger management, you may need to work at controlling your anger and behaviour.
Getting angry is a natural part of what makes us human, but sometimes we can get so angry that it can become out of control. Our anger can hurt others, emotionally or physically, and in the end can hurt ourselves. A long-term study of lawyers and doctors noted that 14 percent of doctors and 20 percent of lawyers who scored high on anger when they were 25 were dead before they were 50, as opposed to 2 and 4 percent respectively for those who were not prone to anger in the same study. Anger, while it may be directed at others, is ultimately more dangerous for the person who is angry all the time. You can suffer from high blood pressure, headaches, sinus pain and pressure, heart palpitations, tingling, and other physical symptoms. Anger and hostility increases your risk of a heart attack.
Anger takes many forms. Some are instantly recognizable; others are difficult for people to identify. Not all experts agree on all types of anger, but those that they do agree on include:
Chronic anger is a constant burning anger that lasts a long time. It can cause other mental disorders and can seriously deteriorate your health. Those with chronic anger need help managing their anger or it may severely shorter their lives.
This is often a type of passive anger, but may become active. This anger is directed at other people and is often tied to resentment.
People who often get overwhelmed by the circumstances of life will experience anger at their situation. They may lash out at others who may be imposing more duties on them.
Passive anger is a type of repressed anger. This anger may be directed inward and may cause self-inflicted anger. It may show up as what people cause passive-aggressive behaviours: sarcasm, rude comments, or doing things that are harmful to others without directly confronting them.
Sometimes cause by guilty feelings, self-inflicted anger is anger turned within and often have self-destructive tendencies.
Volatile anger is just as it sounds. It is sometimes spontaneous and eruptive, like a volcano. It is often violent and extreme.
Taking the first step to controlling your anger may be a bit daunting, but anger management can help you control your anger. By gaining control of your anger, you can decrease your risks in anger-related health problems and possibly have a better relationship with your family, friends, and coworkers.